All Change!

There are a lot of changes going on in my life at the moment and I thought it only fair to let my readers know about how my life is changing.

Firstly, I got engaged in July to the man I have been with for 6 years-we are planning the wedding for next July so a lot of organisation is happening at the moment-I never realised quite how much choice there was when it came to weddings! I’ve realised you can literally have anything you want if you are willing to spend enough! With the engagement of course comes moving in together. We have found a flat we are going to start renting from early October which is very exciting. The domestic goddess side of me will, I’m sure, have a chance to flourish! Thirdly, I have also changed my job and my new workplace is walking distance from our new flat which will be brilliant as I was thoroughly spoiled in my last workplace which had staff accommodation on site! I will be working in the field of learning disability care still but with adults rather than children-I am really excited at tackling this new challenge and getting used to how it works with adults!

Lots of change especially for someone on the autistic spectrum but I am really looking forward to it! I know this blog post is not really AS related at all but I thought it only fair to let those of you who read my posts know how my life is changing. My next blog post will be autism related-I know already what it will be about but I genuinely appreciate all the support I get from my followers so, to me, it’s only right to keep you guys updated as well!

Aspergers and Hoarding

I am currently in the process of having a huge clear out as I am moving house in the next month. Sorting through my stuff has made me realise just how much of a hoarder I am. I have come across lovely birthday presents that genuinely meant a lot to me at the time I received them that went into a drawer and were forgotten about until I found them when I was emptying my desk out. It’s not that they were unsuitable presents or that I didn’t like them-I just have so much stuff that I lose sight of some of it.

I am a hugely sentimental person-I love to keep old birthday cards and various other cards to celebrate occasions. I keep cards going back several years and eventually run out of space to keep them and have to throw them away and I always feel really upset, as though I am turning my back on the people who have written them even when I know logically that this is not true. Similarly, I don’t like to get rid of any birthday presents or Christmas presents I get even when they’re not to my particular taste or I have not got round to using them. A prime example for me is the fragranced gift sets you often get with shower gels and soaps. I have loads of unopened shower gels and soaps that I never get round to using but also forget where they are stored and buy regular shower gel from the supermarket instead! Yet I hate having to get rid of them. It is better now that I donate to local charity shops rather than just binning items as I always think people can still get use out of them.

In terms of clothes, I don’t feel my hoarding is that much of an issue as I hate clothes shopping and only update my wardrobe once every two years on average. I become attached to certain items of clothing and like to wear these for months and even years at a time, even when they are long past their best. A former colleague of mine once commented that she was surprised to see me in a new top as I usually wear 4 or 5 favourite tops in rotation. I do still have items of clothing that I no longer wear but I think most people have the same issue. What I tend to collect is small ornaments and trinkets that you can get in gift shops and as holiday souvenirs. I am slowly coming round to the idea of giving some of these to a local charity shop so that other people can benefit from them but it’s a long process.

I am not, for one moment, suggesting that hoarding only affects people with Aspergers or similar obsessional behaviours (indeed I think it’s simply a trait of being human) or that my case of hoarding is particularly troublesome or severe but I do think a huge element of my hoarding is one of the hallmarks of Aspergers Syndrome-the inability to make decisions and the stress that having to make such decisions leads to. I have, in the past, attempted to have a huge clear out only to become so confused as to what to keep versus what not to keep that I give up and shove everything back somewhere I can’t see it. It is only the fact that I am moving that is forcing me to actually do something about all my “clutter”. The odd thing is I am a neat person and I cannot bear clutter in my general living area but all too often end up with clutter because I just have too much stuff!

While I am in this phase of sorting out all my possessions, I am likely to be quite irritable as it all becomes a bit too much sometimes but I do think it’s good to have a clear out once in a while. If anyone has any tips for making sorting all my possessions a little easier, I would welcome them!